It's Not You: An Essential Self Help Book on Emotional Abuse Recovery, Setting Boundaries, Healing and Reclaiming Your Life: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People
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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER โA compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...โ โJay Shetty From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, youโll learn how to: Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist Confront toxic cycles Protect your energy Create realistic boundaries Reclaim and embrace your true self Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life. Review: Especially for DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES - People with dysfunctional families must read this book. A one stop place for all your questions about partiality between siblings and much more. Thought this book deals with narcissism in family in a superficial level, this will be of great help to heal. I loved the work of the author. Review: Another wonderful book by Dr. Ramani - Dr. Ramani understands the psychological landscape of these relationships so well and extends so much compassion to survivors of these relationships. I have been able to find myself in the chaos that I was and am surrounded with all thanks to Dr. Ramani. Her work truly empowers people. Her work needs to reach more people, and she deserves more recognition for the work that she is doing as she is making a huge difference in people's lives. Her work needs to reach those who are going through these relationships but have no one to tell them that they are not the problem. She sees these relationships for what they truly are and never makes survivors feel unsafe and feel like they are to blame for these relationships. Her work resonated with me on so many levels as often I have engaged in self-doubt and self-blame because of all the enabling and noise around me when I knew that the ones who were being protected were toxic and abusive and not the other way around. Thank you Dr. Ramani for the work that you are doing! You have helped so many people and continue to do so. God bless you and wish you all the happiness in the world!
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| Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 4,388 Reviews |
V**N
Especially for DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
People with dysfunctional families must read this book. A one stop place for all your questions about partiality between siblings and much more. Thought this book deals with narcissism in family in a superficial level, this will be of great help to heal. I loved the work of the author.
M**L
Another wonderful book by Dr. Ramani
Dr. Ramani understands the psychological landscape of these relationships so well and extends so much compassion to survivors of these relationships. I have been able to find myself in the chaos that I was and am surrounded with all thanks to Dr. Ramani. Her work truly empowers people. Her work needs to reach more people, and she deserves more recognition for the work that she is doing as she is making a huge difference in people's lives. Her work needs to reach those who are going through these relationships but have no one to tell them that they are not the problem. She sees these relationships for what they truly are and never makes survivors feel unsafe and feel like they are to blame for these relationships. Her work resonated with me on so many levels as often I have engaged in self-doubt and self-blame because of all the enabling and noise around me when I knew that the ones who were being protected were toxic and abusive and not the other way around. Thank you Dr. Ramani for the work that you are doing! You have helped so many people and continue to do so. God bless you and wish you all the happiness in the world!
R**K
Radical Acceptance !
This book really changes oneโs perspective on dealing with narcissistic people. Prior to reading this book I used to be very offensive, aggressive, and used vehemently fight against the abuse, mistreatment, manipulative mindset of the narcissist people but after reading this book my whole thought process and behaviour transcended towards โradical acceptanceโ and I stopped fighting against the wall, I let go and build boundaries for my own personal peace and well being. Must read for people who are dealing with Narcissistic people of all kinds.
R**I
Dr. R is what the world NEEDS in this day and age!
Dr R, I want to thank you deeply from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so so much! If it wasn't for you, I would have never understood how I lost myself. I am now 30. I have been going through major depression for the past 12 years! And it was simply IMPOSSIBLE to explain to anybody about what I was going through. I have tried to explain in therapy, I have tried to journal, I have tried to talk to friends when I wanted to, but I simply never could. Because the pain had so many layers and projections. I was afraid I would carry this to my grave. And then I came across you on YT. I saw a clip from Jay Shetty's podcast and immediately something made me save it on my phone to watch it later. Then I watched, and then my life flipped! Then I watched you on Lewis's and Lisa's Podcasts. Then I explored your videos on your YT channel - FOR ONCE in 12 years I felt true relief from the gut-wrenching, chronic pain I was in! I can't tell you how grateful I am to you! I watched your videos for about 5 months continuously - made notes, and learnt a lot - then I took your AFFORDABLE healing course - then I bought this book and as I read it - I recognise my triggers and I immediately try to journal - for once I am finally able to journal after multiple attempts to journal it down over many years in the past. This is like THE HARDEST thing to explain, and you have written it so bloody well. You are simply awesome! For me, there is the sky, there is love, there is the universe, there is Buddha, there is Rumi and then there is Dr Ramani! I love you Dr. R. Thank you for the AMOUNT OF EFFORT you have put in to help people like me. I would have NEVER EVER, EVER, EVER found closure and regained a chance to reach my full potential in my life if it wasn't for you! I never expected to find ALL THE PIECES OF THE MISSING PUZZE IN ONE PLACE! It's remarkable that I did in your teachings. I really hope I can see you someday and talk to you. And really hope you are taking care of yourself well and win a Nobel prize!
V**U
Narcissist identification book
Narcissistic persons can b identified with this book
S**N
MUST READ!!!!!!
The book is must read, because you will narrate yourself if you had faced similiar situations with a narcissist.
S**.
Best book on narcisstic abuse
If you have ever felt that Noone understood what was going on in your life with narcissistic abuse, this is the book for you. Dr Ramani has shared some deep insight into the behaviors of narcissist and given ways to cope/protect yourself from the abuser. The parts on Radical acceptance and grief made me cry bucket loads because for the first time it felt like someone really knows what you have gone through. What a wonderful book! A masterpiece.
B**T
The best out there from the expert herself
Dr Ramani wrote this book for us victims of this unique form of abuse, which most people just don't get when we try to explain to them. It's validating my feelings, making me feel less alone in my healing journey and ofcourse tremendously helping me heal. I recommend this to every victim wholeheartedly โค๏ธ๐ฏ
Y**O
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ไปฅไธใๆฌๆธใฎใใผใ1ใใใซใทใทในใใจใฎ้ขไฟใฎ้จๅใใใใฃใจๅผ็จใใใ * ใใซใทใทใบใ ใจใฏไฝใ - ่ชๅทฑไธญๅฟๆง - ๅธธใซไธๅฎๅฎ - ๅนปๆณ็ใช่ชๅคงๆง - ไบ้ขๆง - ็นๆจฉ็ - ้ๆ - ๆๆ ใๅถๅพกใงใใชใ - ๆฏ้ ็ - ๅ ฑๆใฎๆฌ ๅฆ - ไพฎ่็ * ใใซใทใทใบใ ใฎในใใฏใใฉใ ใใซใทใทในใใใใใงใชใใใงใชใใในใใฏใใฉใ ใงๆใใ - ่ปฝๅบฆ: ใฆใถใใใใใปใฉๅฑ้บใงใชใ - ไธญๅบฆ: ๆฌๆธใงไธปใซๆฑใๅฏพ่ฑก - ้ๅบฆ: ๆดๅ็ * ใใซใทใทใบใ ใฎ็จฎ้ก - ่ชๅคง - ่ๅผฑ - ๅ ฑๅไฝ: ใซใซใใฎใชใผใใผใซใใใใใฟใคใ - ็ฌๅ็ - ็ก่ฒฌไปป - ๆชๆง: ใตใคใณใในใซ่ฟใ * ใใซใทใทใบใ ใจ่ชๅทฑๆๆงใใผใฝใใชใใฃ้ๅฎณ๏ผNPD๏ผ - NPD ใจ่จบๆญใใใฆใใใใฉใใใฏๅ้กใงใฏใชใใ - ใใซใทใทใบใ ใฏใใผใฝใใชใใฃใปในใฟใคใซใงใใฃใฆ่จๅบ่จบๆญใงใฏใชใใ * ไปใฎใกใณใฟใซใใซในใฎๅ้กใจใฎ้ข้ฃ - ADHD - ไพๅญ็ - ไธๅฎ - ใใค - ๅๆฅตๆง้ๅฎณ - ่กๅๅถๅพก้ๅฎณ - PTSD * ใใซใทใทในใใใใฎๅ ๅฎณ - ใฌในใฉใคใใฃใณใฐ๏ผDARVO ใชใฉใ ใใผใ2 ใฏใใซใทใทในใใใใฎ่ขซๅฎณใใใฎๅๅพฉใซใคใใฆใงใๆฌๆธใฎๅพๅ้จๅๅ จไฝใซๆธกใฃใฆ่จ่ฟฐใใใฆใใใ * ๆฌๆธใฎ้ทๆใจ็ญๆ - ้ทๆ: ใใซใทใทในใใจใฎๆๅฎณใช้ขไฟใใใฎๅๅพฉใซ้็นใ็ฝฎใใฆใใใใจใ - ็ญๆ: ๅฐใ่ค้ใช่ชฌๆใ็็ฅใใฆใใ็นใใใใใใฎ็นใฏๅ่ "Don't You Know Who I Am?" ใ่่ ใฎ YouTube ใใฃใณใใซใฎๅ็ปใงๅๅ่ฃใใใ ็นใซๆฅๆฌๅฝๅ ใซใฏใ่ขซๅฎณ่ ใซใจใฃใฆๅฝน็ซใคใใฎใใใชๆฌใฏใใพใใชใใฎใงใๅๆธใง่ชญใ่ฝๅใฎใใไบบใฏ่ชญใใงใใใจใใใ
E**S
A must read for all survivors
Thank you for writing this book. I left a toxic relationship of 26 years 5 months ago, and only after leaving started to understand what had happened to me and why I ran like I did. This book has helped me understand what I have been through, that I am not alone, and the practical advice that I have followed has helped me to start sleeping again...
E**R
Deskundig, helder, warm en hoopgevend
Het boek geeft heldere inzichten, maar ook erkenning en hoop voor de toekomst. Dr. Ramani doet bijzonder belangrijk werk en is een baken van compassie voor iedereen die hiermee te maken heeft (gehad). Ze is zeer deskundig, schrijft helder en biedt handvatten voor heling. Ik ben haar zeer dankbaar voor haar tomeloze inzet.
J**R
A book that changed my life!
A book of great value! The stories incorporated throughout the text help understand and identify the abuses. And the tools are powerful to help survive and thrive.
K**R
The best book I've read
This is a book about how to return to yourself and while it is mainly focused on narcissistic abuse survivors, it can also be useful to anyone who wants to break free from a pattern they don't like in their life and build a more peaceful one. It has practical work too to help you in your journey. It greatly helped me into believing more in myself and leaning more into all the parts of me that I used to reject and I have a better relationship with myself now!
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