Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man

"Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep and Understand a Man", the second book in a series of "tell it like it is" books written by comedian/radio personality/activist Steve Harvey, is phenomenal!! In his effort to enlighten his daughters, and women in general, on their misconceptions on the way that men think, he has hit a gold mine. He could probably write 5 more like this and not repeat himself. In response to the numerous questions that Steve would receive from women while on tour promoting his book, "Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man", Steve took the questions that he continued to hear and wrote this book. The questions that Steve continuously heard made him realize that many women really didn't have a clue as to how men thought and what types of messages some of their actions were really sending. Steve felt that in order to promote healthy, long lasting relationships between men and women, some additional advice just may prove useful for many of the women that he was coming into contact with. In this book, Steve goes on to further explain some of the points that he was trying to get across in the initial book that may have been misunderstood and touch on some others that needed to be discussed. Because of the negative response that his "Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man" received from many men, who said that Steve was giving away all of their secrets, in "Straight Talk, No Chaser" Steve uses his comedic style to open the doors to get men and women to read and discuss some topics with each other, and others that are deemed "For Ladies Only". The topics that are discussed in order to provoke conversations between men and women range from "Understanding Men" and what Steve calls "Dating by the Decades: A Guide to How Men Feel About Relationships in Their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and Beyond" to other chapters devoted to dispelling certain "Myths" by telling female readers the "Facts" behind whether Men REALLY find women intimidating. When Steve turns his attention solely to his female readers, he starts off by telling them "Let's Stop the Games..." and the effects of "Nagging" and then tells them "...How to Get What You Want Out of a Man". He even goes on to talk just to the Men and tells them, "Ten Commandments to Pleasing a Woman". I truly enjoyed reading this book. It has proven to provoke many discussions with my husband and daughter, and make me think about many of the things that I was told by my Mother and Grandmother while I was a young woman and how it differed from the advice that was given to me by my father and grandfather, and from how my husband explains things, when discussing the same topics. There seems to be many ideologies that have been passed down from Mother to Daughter over the generations that no longer rings true. With fewer healthy and/or functional Mother/Father and Father/Daughter relationships as examples in more recent years, books like Steve Harvey's becomes more prevalent. It was a definite easy read that answers the questions that so many women, younger and older, have but have not known who or how to ask.

Well, after reading Act like a Lady, Think like a man, it would be only sensible to read Straight Talk. This book further teaches and emphasizes on the last book. It highlights old idea and introduce new ones. I am a Children's author of Can you see my hand? A lesson on faith. I choose to read this book because it is one that I always wanted to read. As an author you should support others. This is my support. It is not like he needs it but it can't do nothing but prosper. Like I said in the last review, I liked it most when he speaks of his wife. It really shows his genuine love for her. After reading chapter 2, it made me feel like there isn't much help for finding male companionship after he gets around age 45. Pg.31 I learned something new in regards to sugar daddies. The topic alone is quite frightening. If you have not read it for yourself you have to. A sugar daddy is the same as a ¨sponsor¨ or ¨player.¨ They are no longer old. They can be a celebrity; from NBA to Rapper. They can be anyone. You will find yourself ¨prostituting and you don't know it¨ ¨$3000¨ is nothing to some of these people. pg 56-57 I like it when he gave tips on better ways to communicate with your man instead of Nagging. I like how he called it a ¨N¨ word as if it is a bad word. I like how he uses his wife as a great example and alternative for great communication. p 158. Last but not least, I like the chapter about the cookie where he supports his thought on the 90 day rule. pg 129. Over all the book is great. If I would request this book to anyone, it would be my friend Monique. If you have read act like a lady, think like a man, you should as well read this book. It makes great since.

Hi everyone, Truthfully, both of Steve Harvey books were great. It opened many people eyes. Steve Harvey isn't a "know it all," he has just had his experiences and has many friends who have had their experiences. Steve Harvey is just telling it how it is. When it comes to Steve Harvey's ex wife, I truly believe she did that for attention. She wishes that she was in Steve Harvey's current wife's position. Steve Harvey's ex wife is mad at Steve's success. That is all apart of life. People do not like to see you doing better than them. So, they'll do anything to stop your shine. That's what Steve's ex wife was doing. Besides, don't you guys think that it's a little too late for her to express all of this bad news about Steve Harvey? God don't like ugly..and what she did was pretty ugly on her behalf. To get back on the subject, Steve Harvey has changed many lives with his two books in a positive way. Others may disagree with me, but this was an outstanding book! I will continue to suggest his books to many friends that are having issues in their relationship. Women need to have standards and women need to appreciate men if they are good to them. We all have a purpose here in life. Things happen for a reason. But, God put Steve Harvey in a wonderful position to put us all up on game (women and men. If no one learns from either of Steve Harvey's books, they will surely learn on their own. I just know I am not one to make mistakes when someone passes their knowledge to me. I may be young, but I am surely a wise young woman...and what Steve Harvey talks about in his two books clearly makes sense to me. I hope all of you find Steve Harvey's books helpful and make the right decisions in your future relationships.

I really enjoyed Steve Harvey's first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment . I've read a lot of relationship books and it was the first one that I had read that really focused on a man's point of view and basically told women when it was time to walk away and how to recognize whether a man is a good man or not, not yet ready to commit or never will commit, etc. I'm giving this book four stars because it lives up to it's title - it's straight talk. He's telling women things they might not want to hear. I'm not giving it 5 stars because I got bored with his personal anecdotes pretty quickly and because I know some men who are not anything like the men Harvey describes. I don't doubt that his analysis is accurate for most men, though. This book is a good follow-up for women who were left with a lot of questions after reading Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. So, I would first suggest reading that book and then reading this one. As a single woman in my 20's I didn't find this book as helpful as the first - don't get me wrong. There was a lot of good information, but it seemed to aimed more at women trying to keep/satisfy/or get along better with their man. For single gals, a book on how to find a man and cultivate the relationship early on would be better. I mean, I'm dating men in their 20's and early 30's and a lot of the advice seemed tailored toward more seasoned daters. Steve's advice for women looking for a man is basically to look your best all of the time, and to hold out on the bedroom for 90 days until you get to know him better - which requires being inquisitive and asking detailed questions. This book is chock full of great tidbits for women already in a relationship, living with a man, and married to help you get along with your man better. That's the other reason that I give this book 4 starts. I'm glad I purchased it on my Kindle, because I'll definitely go back and re-read it once I meet someone new.

I love that Steve doesn't "sugar coat" or beat around the bushes. It's refreshing that he has the guts to just come out and say what he means without apology. Although this book is based on Steve's personal experiences and opinions, the advise is very sound and there is no guessing involved. This book really worked for me. Before I had read the book, I had heard of the 90 day rule. Being recently divorced and new to the dating scene, I knew that was a rule I wanted to follow. I started a dating a friend that I had prior to my divorce. I knew he was a "player", as he would always flirt with me when I saw him out in public, even if he was with one of his many girlfriends. Well, I was not ready for anything serious, but I wasn't going to just give myself away either. I sure wasn't ready to be another notch on his belt. So, I enacted the 90 day rule. I am so glad I did. We got really close really fast. We had lots of fun together and took time to really get to know each other. When I would tell my friends that we were not "doing the deed", they would be shocked because they knew him as well as I did and knew he was a player. They couldn't believe we were still dating when they found out he had not had the "cookie". I did make him wait the full 90 days. Today, we have been happily married for 3.5 years and he seems as content as can be to be with me. I would recommend this book to anyone who doesn't like smoke and mirrors and just wants it straight.

I love this book which says a lot because I have never listened to Steve Harvey and taken him seriously. I find his commentary quite irritating usually and oftentimes don't take him as a credible source on anything. Or at least didn't take him seriously until I read this book. Maybe his new marriage brought out the best in him but he is informative yet funny in this book. His commonsense yet "ah haw" moments left me wanting to read more. I took notes and found myself responding to his comments in the book. I am shocked and did not expect to enjoy this book since I was not impressed with the hoopla associated with Think Like a Man... book. This one has more substance and less bravado. It makes you want to re read it and try to apply the ideas. Actually you would be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't read and embrace some of the profound comments in this book. A TEN STAR BOOK! But I am still not impressed with Steve Harvey, but this book is awesome!

In this book Steve Harvey fills in the small gaps left by his first book on this subject. He does tell it like it is, and that's what we women need to know in order to have happy, successful relationships. I found it very helpful and highly recommend it as a follow up book. I especially liked the section where he answers women's questions straight on. I consider it a must read if you want to get smart about dating and marriage and learn to value yourself as the prize, not the other way around, which is how we usually look at it. I appreciate Steve's honesty and straightforwardness in telling it like it really is. He makes sure we realize our value and what a man really needs at the same time. Without Steve's candidness I might never have known. Thank you Steve!

I ordered this via Kindle, so I do not have anything to say in reference to shipping. That being said, I felt that this book was very much like the first one, as it targeted single women looking to get married and talked about many of the same topics. Steve Harvey has a way of writing in which you can almost hear his voice as you read, so Straight Talk, No Chaser was definitely an easy read. In this book, he continued to push the point that men only require few things to be happy, that women are smarter than men and should know how to manipulate them. I personally don't believe this and feel that there's more to a relationship than that. But I guess it's whatever sells books. Steve Harvey has found his niche and has been very successful, so he's milking the 'relationship expert' cow until it runs dry. He makes some very good points in the book about men, women and relationships; however it's nothing new. I would not suggest spending your hard earned money on book number two if you've already read book number one. It's got basically the same information, so If you must read it, borrow it from a friend or your local library. YMMV... I hope this helps. NEOSOUL

An effective 'decoder' of males' behavior. A useful and fun guide written by a man, which provides women precious information on how men feel about dating, love, marriage and commitment. Finally someone tells women - looking for stability - about false myths to be debunked in their relationship with a man. Engaging book!

Must read for every woman

Feel sad, the book not so new.

I love the Steve Harvey books, whilst he does come from a religious viewpoint his approach really did make sense to me, although I am still unsure whether the 90 day rule is appropriate in the uk in 2015, maybe 1915? I did enjoy the book, I am sure Steve is a very likeable and funny guy and very moral!

First of all, I LOVE Steve Harvey: he's a straight-up kind of guy, whose been around the block a few times himself and this gives him insight into the human-love-relationship condition; whether it be parent to children, marriage partners, life partners, or just plain friendships. In this book he deals with love-relationship issues. He's easy to understand and, as the title implies, he states the issues very clearly. Great book!!