How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know

As a woman who dates interracially, I am very interested in reading books that will help me to seek out men of all races, tips on dating, and how to react if a family member or friend is against my relationship. I've read Mrs. Folan's book, Don't Bring Home a White: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out and Christelyn Karazin's book, Swirling (I highly recommend you all to read those books). But it was something about Lisa Marble's book that was a true eye opener.I have noticed quiet few of my Asian American friend who have dating and married outside of their races in HIGH numbers, especially to white males. I've wondered how they can attract themselves to these professionals? I'm college educated and getting my JD, financially stable, and childless, but I was having difficulty in finding the right men to "swirl". Like Lisa Marble's roommate, my friend gently told me I have to make adjustments to my personal life, as long as I don't fundamentally change my morals or beliefs. In other words, I just can't sit here and wait for Mr. Right to come in; I have to do my work.The book really shows how to perfect the techniques that Asian women have used to attract mostly white males, such as keeping up your appearance, especially on weight. We as black women are being told that being overweight or obese is normal, and it's NOT. It's okay to have curves, but not be unhealthy. Lisa Marble makes a valid point that non blacks believe obesity in black women is a sign of laziness and a lack of self-respect. Some also think it's a sign of being part of the lower to working income bracket. It's unfair, but we have to stop saying that 260 lbs on a 5'4" woman is healthy. With exercising and eating right, of course our confidence grows and more attraction will come for you. She also discuss where to live, and diversify your friends.Now I know there are going to be some who are offended by the title and the advice giving. And there are going to be some who ask why should I change in order to get a man. She didn't say that; she only asking you to observe the techniques and to step up the game if you want to be "irresistible". Overall, a very good book.

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Basically, the books going to tell you the following things:Don't live in the hood - duhDon't allow yourself to get overweight - yeah we figured you'd say thatAlways leave the house looking your best with a well put together outfit or somewhere close to it - yeah we know that applies to finding and keeping any man as a suitor.Be comfortable around White people - Well, if you date them isn't this common sense?What the book doesn't say is there's no science of attraction to get the type of men you want but one thing that's for certain if you are seriously overweight, wearing your hair in unflattering hairstyles, or hanging out in areas where the men are usually broke you aren't going to find someone of value regardless of color. The presentation is everything when the person doesn't know your personality what makes you approachable is your overall presentation and yes this book does talk about that.The book also assumes that white men don’t like black women with natural hair and I have found that to be very false. As long as the natural hair is your own and it’s clean I’m sure they will find it attractive.

THIS.BOOK.IS.AMAZING!!! Really, it is! If you have been out of the dating game for awhile, or if you have felt that you need help with dating this book is for you! I have actually read it twice now. Some of the advice in here IS common sense, but we ladies need reminders. And some ladies out there really need good solid common sense dating advice.But other things in this book really give you something to think about and to learn from! Some of the advice here I never even considered! Or I had but had chastised myself for thinking that way, and now I know my thinking was spot on!I considered buying this book for well over a year before I actually purchased it! I don't know why I took so long. I guess when the student is ready the teacher will appear. If you are a Black women you should really pick this book up. I know the title says 'White men,' but this book will help you be successful with ALL men.Honestly one of the best dating books I've read. Perfect, for helping you to get back out there after a long absence or getting out there to get this dating thing right!

Love it it’s very helpful to understand white men mind.

I bought this on a lark, and to my surprise, it was very good. The author is insightful and direct. Frankly, many of her advises could be extrapolated to apply to men of all races: Keeping your weight down, cultivating friends of other races, being lady-like, smiling more, having an open mind about other races and joyfully engaging in activities that are deemed non-traditionally black will make you more attractive to other races of men.The author's observations about Asian ladies are dead on. Yes, as hard a pill it is to swallow, Black women could stand to learn from Asian ladies regarding the image you project onto the world. I can't wait for the abw (angry black woman) stereotype to die, too many of us have embraced it, are justifying it (yes I know it's hard being a Black woman but still) are portraying it with reckless abandon, on the screen, in blogs and online forums and irl.

There is some great content provided and can be applied to attract men of all races. With that being said, I felt that the book is overpriced. It is not a lot of content for $20. There are statements made about black women that although true, some black women will find offensive. This book is the most helpful for women under age 30.

I really love all of the tips and tricks that this book uses to encourage women to up their game and attracting the man they desire. I love that they have really concrete tips and tricks that are easy to follow. A must read!

I'm always fascinated by these types of books. I like that this book addresses the issue of Black women who live in Europe/America/Canada or any other society of high populous of Caucasian and want to date, what predominates in that society. However, in such societies such individuals may not be perceived as high valued, potential partner and the relationship may come under a lot of pressure behind the scene don't under estimate the influence parents/elders there is more toleration for Asians because of their appearance in relation to the Caucasian and perceived value. That not to say they don't like you, they do your just not the right material for their son..Grow you own hair naturally if you have Afro hair,there are youtube video on this, if you don't accept yourself first how can you expect others to this? If short be like Grace Joan she dating an aristocrat. Grooming is essential, so is being well placed on the social ladder, having good etiquette skills, invest in your education always be learning how to spend money on the right things. In this book the Asian is more monetary successful,note that in this book the Asian female in the had her own flat which her father brought her and was generating an income, in all honesty how many Black women have this level of support? They are more likely to be getting into debt, or having a low paying job to make end meet if they are at college. What subjects are black women choosing? Asian tend to do better academically picking subjects where there is a higher proportion of successful Caucasian males or mates in general it a game of numbers.If they do not secure someone in college, university then they will at work or social life. They can afford to splash out on their social life because they have a higher income. If they are not academically inclined then, they are business inclined, they may start off being a cleaner but end-up running a cleaning agency in a few short years, similarly being a Beauty therapist but end up being a aesthetic practitioner with several salons. Even if they are not business minded, academic they make interesting partners, invest in their relationship and invest in their children heard of the Tiger Mother? These women give their children a head start in life. All this is just an opinion, take with a pinch of salt. However, I do recommend you date, despite your preferences other races in these now multicultural societies do you like being marginalised?Many men date blonds but end up with brunettes that gorgeous Caucasian guy may turn out to be a misogynist or a narcissist.There are women who suffer in silence having lost all confidence, other who have, had to involve police to escape from a wife beater. You may with the aid of this book meet great person, but be careful what you wish for that if they are professional successful,the type of partner Asian are after, they will be more traditional minded regarding roles,the doting husband will have less time for you, and you may end up living a very lonely monotonous existence despite the house, holidays, car, latest mobile phone. You will be required to take, responsibility for the household, and child care that if you have children, even if you are professional yourself. That why there is such a high divorce rate among Caucasian professionals/non professional women in such relationships, they did not bargain for this, Asian women have been socialised to accept this arrangement, and make their own life they have a more business like attitude when it comes to marriage. If you are a Black woman looking for someone warm and open minded from the discussed community of men Irish, Dutch, Norwegians, Germans,Swedish, Scottish,Welsh, New Zealanders, those from the African continent, Jamaica, English,and liberal or modern orthodox Jews the latter more tricky the religious aspect but they are wonderful people. I'm sure there are many others even the exception to the rule with all men, you do not know what happening behind closed doors so stay safe, don't be blinded by your desire.I recommend you purchase "Get the Guy" by Matthew Hussey, he has some wonderful retreats so get saving or get promoted "Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office: 101 unconscious mistakes women"by Lois P. Frankel. .

This was good and informative read. I'm glad I finally took the leap and bought it. I am like the author was; believing that a guy will come because my first guy did. I didn't realise or take into account the type of school I went to and the friends I had were a factor. So here is to me mKing a change. Thank you!

Fabulous. Wish I read this 7 years ago. The website needs reviving. Seriously. She’s an incredibly switched on woman 👏👏

Very good and eye opening tips which I have already started putting in to practice.